Healing from Attachment Injuries: Finding Safety and Connection in Therapy
As people, we are wired for connection. From the very beginning of life, we rely on our caregivers to meet our needs for love, comfort, and safety. Those early experiences shape how we see ourselves, how we relate to others, and how safe we feel in the world. When caregivers are consistent and emotionally available, we learn that closeness is safe and that we are worthy of love. But when caregivers are absent, inconsistent, or emotionally unavailable, the impact can leave behind what therapists call attachment injuries.
Attachment injuries can feel like an invisible weight that follows us into adulthood. They may show up as anxiety in relationships, fear of being left, or a deep sense that love is unsafe or unreliable. For many, these experiences create a cycle of struggling to trust others, feeling disconnected, or questioning their own worth.
What is Attachment Trauma
Attachment trauma happens when our earliest bonds are disrupted or unsafe. Instead of learning that it is safe to turn to others for comfort, we may learn to survive in other ways. Some of us turn up our emotions, trying to be louder or more noticeable so that someone will respond. Others turn down their emotions, shutting down or coping alone to avoid further hurt. These patterns are protective, but over time they leave us feeling isolated and disconnected.
Isolation itself is painful. Human beings are not meant to go through life alone. We are built for closeness and healing happens most deeply when we share the emotional load with others.
Why Secure Bonds Matter
Attachment theory reminds us that secure relationships give us a safe haven. When life feels overwhelming, being able to lean on a safe other helps calm the nervous system and makes challenges feel more manageable. Having someone to turn to does not make us weak or dependent. In fact, it makes us braver. Knowing someone has our back allows us to take risks, pursue growth, and handle stress with more confidence.
Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy, describes healthy relationships as Accessible, Responsive, and Engaged. These qualities are what create the safety that allows us to thrive in both childhood and adulthood.
How Attachment Injuries Show Up Later in Life
Attachment wounds can take many forms in adulthood. You might notice a fear of abandonment or rejection. You may struggle with trust or feel constantly on edge in close relationships. For some, intimacy feels uncomfortable, while for others, the idea of being alone is unbearable. You may find yourself cycling between shutting down and clinging too tightly, not because you are broken, but because your nervous system is still working hard to protect you from past pain.
These patterns are not flaws. They are adaptations. And they can change.
How Therapy Helps Heal Attachment Trauma
Healing from attachment trauma is possible. Therapy offers a safe place to untangle the past and create new experiences of connection. In my Summerlin counseling practice in Las Vegas, I integrate several evidence-based approaches to help clients heal from attachment injuries.
With Emotionally Focused Therapy, we slow down patterns of disconnection and create space for new, healthier ways of relating. With Internal Family Systems, we gently meet and understand the protective parts of you that carry old pain. With EMDR therapy, we process memories that hold emotional intensity, so they no longer control how you see yourself or your relationships.
Over time, therapy helps you learn that closeness can feel safe. You can begin to trust that love and support are possible, and you can rebuild a sense of worthiness in your relationships and within yourself.
Therapy in Las Vegas and Online Across Nevada
If you are living with the effects of attachment trauma, you do not have to carry it alone. I provide therapy for individuals and couples in Summerlin, Centennial Hills, and Spring Valley, and I also offer secure online counseling across Nevada. Whether you are seeking ongoing sessions or EMDR intensives, therapy can help you rebuild trust and create healthier ways of connecting.
I also offer Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help heal attachment injuries by reshaping the patterns of disconnection that keep you feeling stuck. EFT creates new experiences of safety and closeness, allowing you to strengthen relationships and develop a deeper sense of security within yourself and with others. Combined with EMDR and Internal Family Systems, this approach supports lasting healing and emotional growth.
Taking the Next Step
Healing from attachment injuries is not about erasing the past. It is about creating new experiences of safety and connection that allow you to thrive. If you are ready to begin this journey, I invite you to reach out. Together, we can work toward a future where closeness feels safe, love feels possible, and you know that you are worthy of connection.
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